Ending a relationship is never easy. There is nothing you can do about this but there are ways to make it a little easier and a little less painful for both parties involved. Once you have decided that you are going to break up with someone here is some advice on how to survive the break up.
Always end it in person – never under any circumstances use email, text messages or a letter. It may be tempting but this is not fair to the other person who deserves an explanation face to face.
It may also be a good idea to find a neutral spot to break up.
Know what to say – get them to see it from your point of view. Chances are that the reasons you give for breaking up will not come out of the blue. Concentrate on the fundamental reasons why you are breaking up and not the million reasons you find them irritating and annoying.
Don’t change your mind – be absolutely clear that this is the end of the relationship. The clearer you are, the easier it will be in the long run for you and them. Do not give false hope to the other person that there is a possibility of getting back together.
Closure – the goal for you who is breaking up with someone is to give someone a feeling of an ending and a goodbye. This will not be easy but do not let your resolve falter and remember why you are breaking up in the first place.
No contact – you must try to avoid the places that you might see each other. Keep any communication to a minimum if they contact you. This will help with the healing process for both you and them.
Breaking up is a normal part of life. It’s tough, but you will get through it and eventually (even though it may not feel like it right now) you will be happy. Be strong and be brave.